一個NPO工作者的自我敘說~看喪子母親的悲傷調適歷程與轉化

NPO worker's self-narrative ~ Bereaved mother's grief adjustment and transformation process

劉淑芳(Shu Fung Liu)

指導教授 ： 蔡青芬

長榮大學/人文社會學院/社會工作學系(所)/碩士(2013年)

https://doi.org/10.6833/CJCU.2013.00224

摘要

摘 要
此篇論文以自我敘說的方式呈現研究者從喪子之痛的悲傷與調適歷程到轉化，並且化小愛為大愛而成立非營利機構的生命故事歷程。透過回溯敘說，從愛子在短暫且無預警下離去，及罹病住院期間面對愛子病情的快速惡化，使研究者及其家人身心靈上所受的折磨與想逃避，以及愛子逝世後，研究者悲傷過程及如何調適悲傷的歷程與轉化。同時，敘說研究者意外投身於社會工作，看到許多弱勢族群的求助無效與無奈，而對這社會工作領域產生了期待與熱誠。這段艱辛刻苦含著五味雜陳的人生旅程，期盼能提供未來研究者適切之參考。

對研究者而言不只是單純的喪子事件，更是一種嚴重自我的失落。身為父母對孩子都負有其、生育及教養的責任，在孩子身上會投注一生的希望、期待和夢想。因此，在面臨喪子事件所引發的悲傷與痛楚反應必更將為激烈，失落也是又深又重的。喪子失落經驗之中，對於視孩子為抱持著絕大部份希望的，更是一項非常嚴重的失落與哀傷。研究者認為自己沒有扮演好母親的角色，無能保護孩子的安全，一生的希望因此破滅。

在一切機緣匯集之下，夢中的承諾，以及在社會局一起合作的夥伴社工們，還有賴炯明科長的支持下，另外，也結合一些志同道合的熱心人士共同創辦，「社團法人台南市新世代社會福利關懷協會」於97年10月17日誕生了。期望在眾多非營利組織中以兒童為核心、家庭為中心、社區為基礎，對關懷及扶助弱勢孩童及家庭，盡一份心力。

研究結果提出以下建議，給喪子(女)父母、實務工作者以及未來研究等做為參考：1.成立喪子（女）父母的悲傷支持性團體2.喪子的父母是有力量承受失去孩子的傷痛。3.尋找自己與逝去孩子之間的新連結。4.轉化死亡對生命束縛的力量。5.使喪失子（女）父母有勇氣繼續走出自己的生命道路。

關鍵字

自我敘說 ； 喪子母親 ； 悲傷調適歷程

並列摘要

This paper used self-narrative approach to explore the life story of a bereaved mother who went through the process of grief and adjustment and set up a non-profitable rganization to help more families. The author narrated her own xperience of facing unexpected deterioration of her son’s illness during hospitalization and underwent the process of grief and adjustment after the sudden death of her son, which caused the whole family intense physical, mental and spiritual suffering as well as the wish to escape from the overwhelming pain. By chance the author engaged herself in social work, which exposed her to the weakness and helplessness of the vulnerable groups and aroused her expectation and enthusiasm in social work activity. By sharing this life experience filled with difficulties and mix emotions, the author hoped to provide reference for the future researchers.For the author, such a wrenching event was not only about loss of a child but also loss of self. As all parents have hopes and dreams for their children and bear the responsibility of raising them, the death of a child results in the most profound bereavement and loss of self, especially for those who put so much hope on their children. The author blamed herself of not being as a good mother for the inability to protect and keep her child stay safe, and the death of her child had shattered her hope toward future.By coincidence and serendipity , the author and some fellow enthusiasts established a non-profit organization named Tainan New Era Social Welfare Association on 17 th Oct 2008 with the support from the social workers and the Section Chief Mr. Jiung-Ming Lai in the Bureau of Social Affairs. This child-focused, family-centered and community-based organization aims at promoting the welfare of vulnerable children and families, which also fulfilled the promise that the author had made in her dream.
Following suggestions were made based on the study results to serve as reference for the bereaved parents, practitioners and future research: (1) Establishment of grief support groups for the bereaved parents. (2) The bereaved parents can be strong to cope with the grief following the loss of a child. (3) Finding new connection between the bereaved parents and their dead children. (4) Transforming the constraint of death on life. (5) Encouraging the bereaved parents to continue to live their own lives.
Keywords: self-narrative, bereaved mother, process of grief and adjustment

並列關鍵字

Self-narrative ； bereaved mother ； the adaptation process of grief

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