婆媳與母女：不同世代女性家庭經驗的觀點差異

Mother/Daughter and Mother/Daughter-in-law: Women's Perception Differences in Two Generations

利翠珊(Tsui-Shan Li)

《女學學誌：婦女與性別研究》 13期 (2002/05) Pp. 179-218

https://doi.org/10.6255/JWGS.2002.13.179

摘要

婆媳與母女之間，存在著許多互動上的矛盾，其中有婆婆對媳婦的權力關係，媳婦對婆婆的角色義務，也有成年子女與母親之間的反哺及依附之情的延續。兩代之間在情感與角色責任的拉扯下，往往會因各自不同觀點間的衝突而產生許多負面的情緒。本研究目的在指出婆媳/母女之間常見的觀點差異，並探討影響這些觀點差異的可能原因，本研究訪問了12個家庭中具有女兒、媳婦、婆婆和/或母親等角色的女性35名。從她們的訪談資料中擷取對相同家庭經驗的不同觀點。研究結果顯示，婆媳與母女之間的差異主要表現在關係的界定、照顧的職責及子女的教養等三方面；而世代之間若出現「讀到對方所處的情境」、「自我隔離與超越」、「有關鍵的第三者介入」，或是「生活中的危機與轉機」等情況，則會為這些觀點的差異帶來覺察與改變。

關鍵字

女性 ； 代間關係 ； 觀點對照 ； 質化研究

並列摘要

There are many paradoxes existed between adult women’s intergeneration relationships. The power structure between mother-in- laws/daughter-in-laws and the attachment relationship between mother/daughter are the sources of the paradox. Different perceptions of women in two generations would possibly bring in negative consequences. This study attempts to identify perception differences commonly found in adult women’s intergeneration relationships. Factors related to the interpretation of those differences are also explored.
In this study, 35 women in 12 families were interviewed individually. They were from different generations and varied in demographic backgrounds. Results indicated that perception discrepancies of women in different generations existed in three areas: boundary setting, responsibility of care, and parenting practice. Those differences would be managed under four circumstances: understanding the situation the other experienced, isolation or transcendence of self, the involvement of significant others, or experiencing crisis or transition in life.

並列關鍵字

women ； intergeneration relationship ； perception difference ； qualitative research

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