女性原生家庭經驗對婚姻關係之影響

婚姻關係是多數人生命中的重要部分，但想要擁有一段美好幸福的婚姻似乎沒有想像中容易，走入婚姻面對婚姻生活是兩個家庭的相容和協調的過程，因此本研究欲以女性關懷的視角了解女性原生家庭生命經驗，過往那些價值觀、溝通和情緒表達方式的形塑，是如何在婚姻關係中帶來影響。本研究選取四名女性以敘事研究的方法，進行各二次的深度訪談，了解受訪女性原生家庭的生命經驗及走入婚姻後的生活樣態，並從中探討原生家庭對婚姻的影響。在研究方法中則運用「整體－內容」和「整體－形式」分析，探究受訪女性整個生命故事及所堆疊出的人生主題，後續抽絲剝繭了解原生家庭中的價值觀、家庭動力甚至溝通模式如何影響家庭生活和婚姻關係。研究發現，受訪者進入婚姻自組家庭的新婚初期，都還能感受到與配偶間的親密和情感流動，但在生育小孩與配偶共同處理家務和面對教養後，原生家庭中沿襲的重要價值觀、溝通和情緒模式等就會重現，而與配偶產生許多衝撞和磨合，夫妻雙方如何互動和因應則明顯影響對婚姻關係的觀感和評價；而隨著時間和家庭生命週期的變化，夫妻雙方為了維繫家庭和婚姻，會形成一套既定的互動模式，亦會在其中找到調適的方式：像是若妻子感受到先生有較多的包容和忍讓，會讓妻子對婚姻抱持較為正向的態度和觀感，或依靠著感謝先生對家庭的付出和恩情，也願意持續在婚姻關係中努力；另外若妻子可在家務和自我發展中去得平衡、有可信任的友伴關係可傾訴、或是善用心理諮商等外在資源，皆可讓僵化的婚姻關係和互動相處有所轉化，成為維繫婚姻關係的重要因子。最後本研究也依據此結果提出相關反思及建議。

關鍵字

女性研究；原生家庭；婚姻關係

並列摘要

Marriage is an important part of most people’s lives, but having a good and happy marriage is not as easy as one might think. Entering into a marriage and facing married life is a process of compatibility and coordination between two families, therefore, this study aims to understand the life experiences of women’s families of origin from the perspective of women’s care, and to understand how the shaping of values, communication, and emotional expressions have brought about an impact on marital relationships. In this study, four women were selected to conduct two in-depth interviews with each of them by using narrative research method to understand their family of origin experiences and their life style after entering marriage, and to explore the impact of family of origin on marriage from this perspective. In the research methodology, "whole-content" and " whole-form" analyses were used to explore the whole life stories of the women interviewed and the overlapping themes of their lives, and then to explore how the values, family dynamics, and even the communication patterns of their families of origin affected their family life and marital relationships. The study found that in the early stage of marriage when the respondents entered the marital family, they could still feel the intimacy and emotional flow with their spouses. However, after giving birth to a child and sharing household chores with their spouses and facing parenting, the important values, communication and emotional patterns inherited from their families of origin would be reproduced, which would result in a lot of conflicts and conflicts with their spouses, and the way the spouses interacted with each other and responded to each other would obviously affect the perception and evaluation of the marital relationship; and with the passage of time, the family dynamics and even communication patterns in the family of origin would affect family life and marital relationship. With the change of time and family life cycle, in order to maintain the family and marriage, both spouses will form a set of established interaction patterns, and will also find ways to adapt: for example, if the wife feels that Mr. has more tolerance and forbearance, it will make the wife hold a more positive attitude and perception of the marriage, or rely on the appreciation of Mr.'s dedication and kindness to the family, and will be willing to continue to work hard on the marital relationship. In addition, if wives can strike a balance between household chores and self-development, have trustworthy friends to talk to, or make good use of external resources such as psychological counseling, all of these can change the rigidity of the marital relationship and interactions, and become an important factor in maintaining the marital relationship. Finally, this study also puts forward relevant reflections and suggestions based on the results.