好好道別：重溫舊事中更新的歷程

從梁祝十八相送到現代情侶分開時的離情依依，家長送小孩第一次上學時的分離焦慮和不願意讓耶穌離開的瑪利亞瑪達肋納拉著耶穌不放。無論面對生離或死別，即便身處在網路發達的現代，相見看似容易，一旦離別時刻到來，開口說再見確實有困難。本文從覺察處遇歸納三種情況：黑夜（害怕孤單）；矜（不落淚）；深處傷痛（恐懼獨留）。洞察回憶的三種類型：懼無；信靠誰；脆弱。談重溫舊事的更新歷程：涵容（傷別離）；調和（已知的未知）；接納（心理歸化）。結語道別是再見之始，透過重溫舊事更新經歷好好道別。

關鍵字

覺察處遇；洞察回憶；重溫舊事；涵容；調和；接納

並列摘要

Like the farewell for 18 miles of Butterfly lovers in classical Chinese opera, modern couples who reluctant to part when the time to say goodbye, the separation anxiety when the first time parents dropping their child off at school, and St. Mary Magdalen held on to Jesus unwilling to let him go, even in the well-developed Internet era, when facing the separation in life and parting at death, meeting each other seems easy; whereas then came the time to part, it is hard to bid farewell. This paper generalizes three types of situation by awareness and state of mind: (1) the night (fear of loneliness), (2) ＂jīn＂ (矜, holding back tears), and (3) the deep pain (fear of being alone). This paper gives insight into three types of memory: (1) fear of nihility, (2) in whom do you trust, and (3) the fragile. Also, this paper discusses the renewal process of reviving the bygones: (1) containment (reluctant to part), (2) harmonization (knowing the unknown), and (3) acceptance (psychic conversion). The conclusion: farewell is the beginning of reunion, and people can bid farewell to one another by reviving the bygones.