從婆媳子關係中的男性看關係中的自我調適歷程

The Self Adjustment Progress of Intimacy and Independence for Male in Mother-in-law, Daughter-in-law and Son Relationships

廖昀雅(Yun-YA Liao)

指導教授 ： 邱惟真

淡江大學/教育學院/教育心理與諮商研究所碩士班/碩士(2021年)

https://doi.org/10.6846/TKU.2021.00404

摘要

本研究以5位婚齡至少3年的已婚男性為研究對象，透過深度訪談收集資料，以「主題式分析」方法分析文本，了解身處婆媳子關係中的已婚男性，如何在關係中保有自我的歷程、內涵與心理意義。研究結果如下：
（一） 婆媳子關係中男性在關係中保有自我的心理歷程，大致經歷了困擾與衝突的發生、思索調整、調適得當的三個階段。
（二） 婆媳子關係中男性在關係中保有自我的內涵，在於其調適得當的行動與調適過程的助力，「用自我調和關係」來採取行動，「關係滋養關係、關係成為成長助力、關係以外的成長助力」則是在調適過程中來自內外在的不同助力。
（三） 婆媳子關係中男性在關係中保有自我的心理意義，則表現在男性各自在關係中基於其接受程度有不同的堅持與妥協，也表現在男性個人能回到內在感受尊重自己的獨特。
（四） 研究結果呼應人際歷程取向治療理論，個體調適關係，需要足夠安全的關係，與適當的修正性經驗和歷程評論。研究對象亦展現華人男性調適關係具有「折衷自我」內涵與不同樣貌的「雙元自主」，既獨立又與關係有所連結，正是親密中仍有自我。

關鍵字

婆媳 ； 已婚男性 ； 關係 ； 關係中的自我

並列摘要

The purpose of this study is to understand the progress, content and psychological meaning of how did the married males who stay in the relationship with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law adjust themselves between intimacy and independence. This study based on thematic analysis, collected data through in-depth interviews with five male participants married at least three years. The findings of research is as below:

1.The progress of males in mother-in-law and daughter-in-law adjust themselves between intimacy and independence generally includes three steps: conflict or distress happened, thinking of adjustment and well adapted.
2.The content of males in mother-in-law and daughter-in-law adjust themselves between intimacy and independence is the appropriate action and the assistances in the adjusting progress. They include: ‘using self to meditate relationship’ as action, ‘relationship nurish relationship, the assistances from relationship, the other powers out of relationship’ as the assistances from inside and outside in the adjusting progress.
3.The psychological meaning of males in mother-in-law and daughter-in-law adjust themselves between intimacy and independence performed on the different kind of insistence and compromise in relationship based on the different acceptance, and also on the respect of themselves back to inner.
4.The results of research respond the Interpersonal Process in Theory. Person adjusting intimacy and independence need safe-enough relationship, appropriate corrective- emotional-experience and process comment. The participants also showed male in Chinese culture has the content of ‘Composite Self’ and diverse appearances of ‘duel autonomy model’, which shows the adjustment of intimacy and independence.

並列關鍵字

mother-in-law and daughter-in-law ； married male ； relationships ； self in relationships

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