將婚伴侶婚前焦慮的衝突調適經驗之探究

A Study on the Marriage Partners’ Experience of Premarital Anxiety Adjustment

洪小雯(Hsiao-Wen Hung)

指導教授 ： 張玉茹

國立暨南國際大學/教育學院/諮商心理與人力資源發展學系 輔導與諮商碩士班/碩士(2020年)

https://doi.org/10.6837/ncnu202000150

摘要

本研究旨在探討將婚伴侶的婚前焦慮經驗，以及婚前焦慮所引發的衝突議題，並進一步探討伴侶衝突調適策略的差異對親密關係之影響。研究方法採用質性研究的深度訪談法蒐集資料，共訪談兩對經歷過婚前焦慮衝突經驗的將婚伴侶。再依敘說分析中「整體內容」、「類別內容」的分析步驟進行受訪者故事撰寫以及內容分析的工作，研究結果如下：
一、婚前焦慮主要來自於生活型態與身分角色的改變，不僅女性感受到婚前焦慮，男性對於婚後生活的轉變亦有焦慮感受。
二、將婚伴侶婚前焦慮所引發的衝突議題以親代與子代之間的相處適應、親密關係溝通互動為主。在代間關係的適應上，將婚女性要融入對方的家庭，較男性承受的壓力為多，也感受到更多適應的需求與困難，所以當男友未能理解自己的處境時也易發生爭執。除此之外，當伴侶雙方的想法與溝通方式的差異也會導致伴侶衝突。
三、衝突調適策略方面，男女皆會使用容忍妥協、理性溝通、尋求資源協助以及換位思考的方式；男性亦會透過轉移注意力、維持現狀等調適策略，而且伴侶之間的調適策略會相互影響。
根據以上研究結果，研究者針對將婚伴侶、伴侶諮商實務工作以及後續研究人員提出進一步之建議作為參考。

關鍵字

將婚伴侶 ； 婚前焦慮 ； 衝突調適 ； 親密關係 ； 伴侶互動

並列摘要

The purpose of this study was to explore the experience of premarital anxiety in couples, as well as the conflict issues caused by premarital anxiety, and further to explore the impact on intimacy by differences in partner conflict adjustment strategies. The research adopted the in-depth interview, and the data were collected from two pairs of married couples who had experienced premarital anxiety conflict experience. According to the narrative research, the interview data were written to the participants’ stories, and coded and analyzed in “Holistic-Content” and “Category-Content” method.
The results of the research showed:
1.Premarital anxiety mainly comes from the change of life style and role identity. Not only women feel premarital anxiety, but also men feel anxiety about the change of life after marriage.
2.The conflict issues caused by premarital anxiety mainly focus on the relationship with partner’s family, and communication and interaction between partners. In the adjustment of intergenerational relationship, the married women are expected to get involved in partner's family, which is more stressful than men, and they also feel more needs and difficulties in adjustment. Therefore, when the boyfriend fails to understand her situation, it is easy to cause conflict.
In addition, when the different ways of thinking and communicating between the partners will also lead to conflict.
3.In terms of strategies of conflict adjustment, both men and women will use the methods of tolerance and compromise, rational communication, seeking resource and assistance, and transposition thinking. Men will also adjust their strategies by distracting attention and maintaining the status. The strategies of adaptation between partners will affect each other.
Based on the results of the above findings, the researcher gave suggestions for marriage partners, couple therapy and follow-up research.

並列關鍵字

marriage partners ； premarital anxiety ； conflict adjustment ； intimate relationship ； couple interaction

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