離婚或不離婚？婚姻關係解密之探究~~客體關係理論的詮釋

本研究的目的在了解婚姻關係變動的女性，在經過變動的過程，如何透過自我覺察，產生來自自身的轉化經驗的整理經驗。本研究以敘說的方式進行深度的訪談，研究的對象為三位目前處在離婚或是不離婚兩難抉擇下的婚姻關係變動的女性，婚齡在5-10年間，年齡為35-45歲間的成年期女性；採取敘說研究作為研究方法，以半結構式的訪談法，深度的進入婚姻關係變動的女性來自原生家庭的互動經驗，以及面對婚姻關係變動中的互動模式的整理與敘說，最後透過自身經驗的整理產生的轉化經驗。研究發現包括： 1.原生家庭的重新整理，包括： (1)投射性認同成為轉化母女糾葛的素材，成為接回新關係的經驗。 (2)透過釐清父女之愛與伴侶之間的互斥中，覺察到虛假的我並釐清真實的伴侶關係。 2.女性受訪者在婚姻的變動中，找尋自我轉化的經驗，包括： (1)修復主體與客體之間的關係，來自於主體與客體之間界線的釐清以及整合的過程，並透過接回自己內在的匱乏感，轉化明白需要豐富自己內在價值感的建立。 (2)學習發展出一份成熟的愛，透過互動的經驗，理解到關係是需要平等的進行，以及愛是最終能夠維持婚姻重要的中介因子。研究者針對以上結論進行討論，並根據此結果提出建議，以作為實務工作者和婚姻關係變動女性的建議與參考。

關鍵字

婚姻關係變動的女性；客體關係

並列摘要

The purpose of this study was to understand the variations in women's marital relationship, while experiencing the process of variation, and how to through the process of self-awareness, resulting the integrating experiences steming from their self-conversion experience. The study is process with the narrative analysis of depth interviews, the objects of study are three adult women between 35-45 years of age, currently in the dilemma of whether divorce or no divorce, duration of marriage under 5-10 years; take the narrative analysis as a research method to semi-structured interviews, deeply into their original family interaction experience, as well as the consolidation of facing the interactive pattern of the variable marriage stage, and finally through the integration of their own experience result in conversion experience. Research findings include: 1. Rearrangement of the original family, including: (1) The projective identification become the material of conversion the entanglements of mother and daughter and the experience of reconnect to a new relationship. (2) by clarifying the mutex of the love between father and daughter and the love between partners, perceive the false self and clarify the true partner relationship. 2. female interviewees in the variable marriage stage, finding the experience of self-transformation, including: (1) repair the relationship between subject and object, clarify the boundaries between subject and object and the process of integration, and through reconnect their inherent lack,understand the need of build up their own rich intrinsic value. (2) learn to develop a mature love, through the interactive experience, understanding the relationship between the need to be equal, and that love is ultimately the most important mediator of maintaining the marriage. Researcher have a discussion toward these conclusions and make recommendations based on this result, as a advice and reference for practitioners and women who's in the variable marriage relationship.