目睹暴力兒少成年後親密關係經營模式探討

本研究主要探討目睹暴力兒少成年後親密關係經營模式，目的在瞭解目睹暴力兒少從小目睹原生家庭暴力行為衝突後，成年後是否會複製父母面對衝突時的暴力行為，或是另外以新的處理方式自身親密關係衝突時的困境。本研究採質性研究方法，以立意取樣方式，研究對象為已成年者並且至少有一年以上的親密關係互動之經驗。以半結構訪談大綱，透過個別深度訪談進行資料蒐集及逐字稿分析，以瞭解目睹暴力兒少成長過程及學習到面對兩性相處衝突之探討。本研究發現，目睹暴力兒少面對親密關係經營衝突如認知落差、生活習慣、負面情緒、人際交往界線、親密互動相處、家務分工任務、長輩相處、經濟等議題，期待有品質的溝通解決親密關係經營任務，然衝突無法處理時採取策略為配合對方達成共識、口角、隱忍、放著不處理、提升自我能力、發洩自身情緒、肢體暴力、離家出走、結束關係，並且會尋求朋友、親人、電視電影等協助，以解決衝突親密關係衝突，並試著以彼此興趣、保留自我空間、配合對方期待、調整自我壓力維繫親密關係經營。最後從研究結果及發現提出對實務社會工作、學校輔導、社區、政策層面協助上等具體建議。

關鍵字

質性研究；目睹暴力；親密關係經營

並列摘要

This study explored the intimate relationship management models of adults having witnessed domestic violence in adolescence or childhood. The purpose was to understand whether the adults having witnessed violent behaviors inflicted by their family of origin from an early age, would imitate the same violent behaviors as their parents did in conflict, or adopt a new approach to deal with the difficulties in their own intimate relationship conflict. Qualitative research method and purposive sampling were used in the study, and research subjects were adults with at least one-year experience of intimate relationship. Data was collected from individual in-depth interviews using semi-structured interview guide and analyzed from text verbatim, in order to understand development of the adults witnessing domestic violence in adolescence or childhood and learning to confront conflict between sexes. This study found that the adults witnessing domestic violence in adolescence or childhood expected to have equality communication so as to address intimate relationship management tasks when confronting conflicts, such as cognitive differences, daily habits, negative emotions, interpersonal relationship boundaries, intimate interaction, household chores division, getting along with the elders, finance and other issues. On the other hand, when conflicts could not be dealt with, strategies adopted would be reaching a consensus with the other, quarreling, tolerating, putting aside and ignoring, improving self-ability, blowing off steam, physical violence, running away from home, ending the relationship, and turning to their friends and relatives, TV and movies and so on to resolve conflicts in intimate relationships. They would also try to maintain intimate relationships by attempting hobbies and interests of the others’, having some degree of privacy, trying living up to the other’s expectations, and adjusting one’s stress level. Finally, from the research results and findings, specific suggestions on practical social work, school counseling, community, and assistance in policy formation were proposed.