大學生走出愛情分手困頓經驗之心理歷程研究

The Mental Process of Suffering Experience from Breaking-ups of College Students

羅子琦(Tzu-Chi Lo) ； 賴念華(Nien-Hwa La)

《家庭教育與諮商學刊》 9期 (2010/12) Pp. 1-32

https://doi.org/10.6472/JFEC.201012.0001

摘要

本研究主要探討大學生愛情分手困頓經驗之心理歷程，研究目的：一、瞭解困頓經驗的內涵，研究目的；二、探究走出愛情分手困頓經驗的心理歷程，研究目的；三、瞭解走出愛情分手困頓經驗的意義。本研究之研究對象，以在大學期間曾歷經愛情分手經驗者爲主，爲大三至大四的學生共三名，其中包含男性一名，以及女性兩名，且皆爲被動分手者。本研究以質性研究深度訪談的方式來獲得研究資料，以敘說研究爲資料分析的方式來進行本研究，並以三角檢證方式確認分析結果。
研究結果可分爲三個部分，在心理歷程脈絡部分：一、渴望在愛情中找到認同；二、高度投入是困頓的起源；三、再次失落引發的困頓。在走出愛情分手困頓經驗的部分，依據研究目的與問題，困頓經驗的內涵包含層次一是失去對自我的認同，層次二是自我的空無。有關走出愛情分手困頓經驗的心理歷程，可分爲四個時期：一、震驚否認的交錯時期；二、承認失落的困頓時期；三、全然接受的涵容時期；四、再建構的行動時期。有關走出困頓的意義部份，包括：一、痛苦即是轉機；二、離開才瞭解「愛」；三、自我的重新建構。
最後根據本研究的發現，提出對於諮商實務上的建議與研究上的具體建議。

關鍵字

愛情分手 ； 困頓經驗 ； 因應 ； 走出

並列摘要

The study explored the mental process of suffering experience from breaking-ups of college students. The aims of this study are to understand the meaning of suffering experience, and to plot the process of suffering experience generating from past break-up experiences. The research participants are subject to senior college students who had been through break-up experience in college period. One male and two female students who had forced to terminate their relationships with the other parties are recruited for the study. On the other hand, the researcher employed qualitative in-depth interview to collect the underlying data. Moreover, narrative research and triangulation technique in validating the results are used in this study.
Three main results are generated here, which discuss the meaning of mental process, the transition of the issues, and the meaning of going through suffering experience. The description of each result is summarized as follows. Firstly, the mental process of break-up experiences signifies the existence of a strong wish to raise self-identity in a romantic relationship, and shows that the origin of suffering comes from personal over-involvement. Furthermore, repeated loss may lead to suffering experience. Secondly, the meanings of going through suffering experience are twofold: the loss of self and the vanity of self.
Finally, there are four periods which describe the coping process of going through suffering experience: a. the interlace stage of astonishment and denial; b. the suffering stage of loss admission; c. the embracement stage of full acceptance; d. the action stage of re-establishment. Besides, three summarized meaning for going through suffering experience are as follows: a. suffering from loss of a romantic relationship is a transition of life; b. the meaning of love would not be realized until breaking up; c. breaking-up offers an opportunity for re-construction self. Last but not the least, the author raised several feasible suggestions for the practice and study into the field of counseling based on the findings of this study.

並列關鍵字

bereak-up ； suffering experience ； copying ； go through

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