「非標準親密關係」的女性友「情」：以異性戀女性為例

本研究的發想來自於本人實際生活經驗及周遭生活新聞，了解到存在於女性友誼中的熱烈情感，總是會被歸類為「女同志」，而過去的親密關係研究，若不是以「婚姻」、「家庭」、「配偶」的異性戀為中心，就是以「異卅同」的二元對立框架為中心，除此之外，別無其他。女人間的關係，在過去是隱形的，也沒有經驗去解釋這些現象，因此，有必要將女人的情感經驗再理論化，我們才能看到「異卅同」之外的不同親密關係展現，以及「愛與關懷」的多元性。因此，本研究的女性友誼，站在「非標準親密關係」（non-standard intimacy）的立場，希冀能在了解女性友誼親密關係研究上，提供不同貢獻！本研究主要藉由訪問八位異性戀女性為主。探討主題為：（1）先藉由異性戀框架，去了解女性友誼內涵的呈現；以及存在於異性戀體制（關係）中的女性主體，她們會遭遇到的限制。（2）由女性主體的詮釋角度，去了解其情感，以及與異性戀體制遭遇時，可能的作為。研究中，我們確實看到不論結婚或單身女性友誼多元的可能性。而由女性主體經驗中，我們也看到了存在於友誼中的多元情感，而這樣的情感也讓我們看到了「異性戀」本身存在多樣不同的可能性。並且，經由女性主體的詮釋，也讓我們看見她們雖存在於異性戀體制（關係）中，但對於女性友誼的展現，卻有著與其抗衡的潛力。而這也提供了更多空間在「非標準親密關係」上。

關鍵字

非標準親密關係卅親密關係；異性戀女性；女性友誼卅友情；情感；女同志；酷兒理論

並列摘要

The study was originated from my personal experience and news happened every day. We have always been told that those existing passionate female friendship is classified as ‘lesbian’. And those studies about intimacy are either focused on heterosexuality like ‘marriage’, ‘family’ and ‘spouse’, or discussed in the frame of ‘ heterosexuality/homosexuality’. There was no gray area. Relationship between women was invisible in the past, nor other experiences to explain the phenomenon. Therefore, apart from “heterosexuality/ homosexuality” binary framework, it is necessary to take women's emotional experience serious, and then we can see different intimate relationship, and the diversity of ‘love and care’. I will take the stand of ‘non-standard intimacy’ to staudy the intimate female friendship ; I hope to contribute an alternative understand of women’s intimate friendship. The data is collected from eight heterosexual women. The themes of discussion were: （1）Through heterosexual frames, to understand the rendering of the meaning of female friendship and those restrictions when they experienced in heterosexual relations (2) From the angle of the female subject, to know their emotions, as well as their action while encounters the heterosexual relations. We can see the multiple forms of friendship among married and single. From these women's subjective experience, we also can see the existing friendship of multiple forms of emotions, and this emotion also allows us to see various different possibilities in the heterosexuality itself. In addition, through the women’s interpretation, their intimate friendship has a potential to contend with the heterosexual relations. And these also provide more space for the study of“non-standard intimacy.”