牽手一生：女性的婚姻承諾在婚姻中的變化

Devoted All the Life Time to Marriage:The Changes of the Marital Commitment for Females in Their Marriages

陳富萍(Fu-Ping Chen)

指導教授 ： 周麗端

國立臺灣師範大學/教育學院/人類發展與家庭學系/碩士(2006年)

摘要

本研究旨在探討已婚女性的婚姻承諾概念，及其承諾在婚姻中的變化歷程。本研究使用質化研究方法，採半結構式的深度訪談，訪問四位婚齡15年以上，年齡介於39-54歲之間，且育有子女之初婚女性。
研究發現30-50年代女性所覺知的婚姻承諾概念分為二個面向：一是受傳統文化及婚姻觀影響之具道德義務感的「角色責任與義務承諾」，其內涵包含養兒育女、照顧先生、孝敬公婆及經營家庭的承諾，其中又以對子女的角色責任與義務為女性堅守婚姻承諾最主要的牽繫力量；二是基於個人情感需求的承諾，包含夫妻間的愛與親密情感、及夫妻一體、患難與共的承諾。由本研究顯示，女性在傳統婚姻觀的洗禮下，雖以婚姻中之角色責任與義務的承諾是其認知的婚姻承諾主要之意涵，但夫妻間的愛與親密情感，亦是女性所期盼的婚姻承諾重要意涵。
已婚女性的婚姻承諾會受到夫妻關係、子女因素、代間關係(婆家及娘家)之外在事件的衝擊而產生變化，其中會加強女性維持婚姻承諾之行為的事件包括：先生的體貼；夫妻間的支持；夫妻間的溝通分享；夫妻同心照顧子女；娘家的制約等。而會削弱女性維持婚姻承諾意願的事件包括：夫妻無法接納彼此個性上的差異；先生缺乏責任心；夫妻缺乏溝通、婆媳互動的壓力等。在女性婚姻承諾的變化歷程中，其內在勇於承擔婚姻責任的決心是婚姻能長期持續經營，不因外在事件之衝擊而改變的重要關鍵，而夫妻間愛與親密情感的培養與品質，亦是女性願意信守婚姻承諾的一個關鍵力量。
最後，根據研究結果與發現，研究者提出一些建議供已婚者、婚姻教育課程及後續研究參考之用。

關鍵字：婚姻承諾、婚姻穩定、婚姻維繫、深度訪談

關鍵字

婚姻承諾 ； 婚姻穩定 ； 婚姻維繫 ； 深度訪談

並列摘要

The purpose of the study aims at the concepts and the changes of marital commitment in married women’s lives. The study adopts the qualitative analysis along with an in-depth semi-structural interview with four women aged from 39 to 54 years old who have children from their marriages of first time which last more than 15 years.
The study discovers that the concepts of marital commitment of the women who were born in 1930s to 50s have two different aspects. First of all, the concept of morality which is affected by traditional culture and marriage value is the commitments to the role obligation and responsibilities which includes the commitment of cultivation of children, taking caring of her husbands and parents in law. Among the above responsibilities, the role obligation to her children is the most primary strength for a woman to adhere to marriage. Secondly, the other aspect of concept is based on the commitment for the needs of affections, including the love and intimacy between couples, the feel of two in one, and commitment to live together no matter what happens. The research indicates that the primary meaning of the marital commitment for women living with traditional marriage values is though to recognize the role and responsibilities in a marriage, the interaction between husband and wife is also the key expectation to maintain the marital commitment when women feel more affections and intimacy.
As for the contributing factors to marital commitment of the married women, according to the study, the relationship between husband and wife, their children, relatives（including the original-family and the in-law-family）, cultural conventions, would cause the change of women’s original marital commitment. The positive events for women to maintain their commitments in marriages including husband’s considerations, supports between the couple and sharing of couple’s feeling and thinking, taking care of children together, and restriction from the wife’s original family would reinforce women to maintain the marital commitment. On the contrary, the negative events which weaken the marital commitment of women are couples’ different viewpoints, husband’s lacking of responsibilities, couples’ inadequate communication and the pressures from the interaction between wives and their mothers in law.
In the changes of the marital commitment of married women, the determination of taking responsibilities in marriage plays the essential role in marriage maintenance and can avoid changes from the impact of events outside marriage. Besides, the development and the quality of intimacy and love between husband and wife are also the important strengths for women to continue their’ marital commitment.
At last, according to the consequences and discoveries from the study, the researcher provides some suggestions for married people, designs of “marital education courses” and applications for future studies

Keyword：marital commitment, marital stability, marital maintenance, in-depth interview

並列關鍵字

marital commitment ； marital stability ； marital maintenance ； in-depth interview

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