配偶外遇之寬恕研究：從妻子角度出發

本研究係從妻子的角度瞭解丈夫外遇前後婚姻的一系列歷程，配偶外遇者如何進入復原與寬恕之路，所展現的寬恕面貌又如何。為探究研究問題，本研究採質性研究法，以詮釋現象學的哲學理念與觀點，進行研究文本的資料蒐集、分析與詮釋。透過深度抽樣的策略，本研究深度訪談了八位配偶外遇者，得出以下研究結論：一、婚姻之路充滿挑戰，外遇是出軌，也導引出另一條人生之路。二、寬恕是配偶外遇者終須面對的課題。三、寬恕有不同樣貌的呈現，假性寬恕和真實寬恕對一般人而言，都是寬恕。四、寬恕的益處可以分成個人、他人及關係的。五、配偶外遇者的寬恕受到下列因素的影響：（一）復原歷程的階段性；（二）寬恕歷程的完整性；（三）寬恕的形成因素；（四）寬恕力量的深度與強度。六、寬恕可以轉變、可以提升至更高層次。七、愛是力量，信仰中無條件永不改變的愛是力量的極致。最後，依此結論提出工作原則之建議。

關鍵字

外遇；復原；寬恕

並列摘要

This study starts from marital union, explores the processes encompassing extramarital affairs and the path of restoration and forgiveness on the part of participants whose spouses had extramarital affairs. The study adopts the qualitative research method. According to the philosophical views of hermeneutic phenomenology, this study proceeds to collect, analyze and explain the resultant research data. By the methodology of intensity sampling, 8 participants were invited in this research for in-depth interviews. There are 7 important conclusions: 1. Marriage is full of challenges. The extramarital affairs were derailing events, but they led to another road of life. 2. The forgiveness issue must be faced by persons whose spouses had extramarital affairs. 3. There are different patterns of forgiveness. 4. The value of forgiveness includes the individual’s, the other's and mutual values. 5. The influencing factors of forgiveness include: (1) The stage of restoration; (2) The completeness of progress for forgiveness; (3) The formed factors of forgiveness; (4) The depth and strength of power for offering forgiveness. 6. We can convert low-level patterns of forgiveness (false forgiveness) into high-level patterns of forgiveness (real forgiveness). 7. Love is power. The unconditional and immutable love is the ultimate love. According to the results of this study, several suggestions are proposed to serve as reference for family social work practice.