男同志憂鬱經驗者經營伴侶關係方式之探索

本研究旨在探索男同志憂鬱經驗者經營伴侶關係的方式，並理解在男同志憂鬱經驗者的伴侶關係中，憂鬱對於伴侶關係的經營所產生的相互影響。本研究以男同志憂鬱經驗者三位為對象，採用質性研究之敘事分析法，藉由訪談蒐集到的資料進行分析，以了解經營伴侶關係的方式與憂鬱的影響。研究結果如下：壹、男同志憂鬱經驗者伴侶關係經營歷程一、欣賞外在形象後，價值觀的相似與個性的契合是關係的開啟的必要條件。二、關係中的衝突會促發憂鬱者未被滿足的依附需求與憂鬱。三、關係中的核心衝突還包含生活習慣的歧異以及沉默。四、透過伴侶的鼓勵支持，男同志憂鬱經驗者得以對性傾向產生認同。五、男同志憂鬱經驗者也可能以憂鬱重演關係中的核心衝突，進而滿足自己未被滿足的依附需求以使關係穩定。貳、憂鬱於男同志憂鬱經驗者扮演惡性互動循環模式的關鍵角色一、若憂鬱經驗者為逃跑者，則在被觸動未滿足的依附需求後，會開始壓抑負面情緒，並累積到一定的程度後後爆發，會在關係中後產生更高張力的情緒以及更激烈的行為衝突。二、若憂鬱經驗者為追逐者，則在被觸動未滿足的依附需求後，會利用張力高的情緒，將憂鬱的原罪丟到逃跑者身上，激發逃跑者的罪惡感，直到逃跑者彌補滿足追逐者未被滿足的依附需求。三、若身為追逐者的憂鬱經驗者因憂鬱沉默，則可能發生放大沉默無限循環，使關係瀕臨無疾而終。

關鍵字

男同志；憂鬱；伴侶關係經營

並列摘要

This study aims to explore relationship management of gays with depression experiences and the influence each other of depression on relationship management. 3 gays with depression experiences participated in this study. A qualitative narrative research is utilized. With the analysis of interviews from the gathered data, relationship management of gays with depression experiences and the influence of depression on relationship management. The research findings are as follows: 1. The proces of relationship management of gays with depression experiences (1) After appearance appreciating, it is a necessary condition about similar values and fit personality. (2) Conflict in the relationship will stimulate unsatisfied attachment needs and depression. (3) Conflict in the relationship include llife habit difference and silence. (4) Through the mate’s encouragement and supports, gays with depression experiences are able to agree with their own sexual orientation. (5) Gays with depression experiences may react the conflict in the relationship to satify their own unsatisfied attachment needs. 2. Depression plays a critical role in vicious interaction cycle model on gays with depression experiences. (1) If the depression experience is a withdrawer, when his own unsatisfied attachment needs are touched off, he will repress his depression and explode after accumulating to a certain level, becoming intenser behavioral conflict. (2) If the depression experience is a pursuer, when his own unsatisfied attachment needs are touched off, he will use high mood to attribute depression to the withdrawer’s mistake and stimulate guilt to the withdrawer until the withdrawer remedy pursuer’s unsatisfied attachment needs. (3) If the depression experience pursuer silence because his depression, it will happen silence infinite loop and make the relationship die without sign of disease.