「做」一段開放式關係：男同志的性愛慾衝突與協商經驗探析

本研究運用純粹關係、性階層及性腳本理論，探討男同志個體在「做」一段開放式關係時，所歷經的性愛慾衝突，與協商內涵的自我詮釋與反思；包括在協商過程中，個人是如何表現情感揭露、轉化性階層作用於個人情慾實踐的意義，並再造關係互動腳本。本研究從以下幾個面向切入：個人進入開放式關係的緣起、發生衝突的情境、協商方式、內容及結果，個體是如何理解衝突內涵、創造新的互動關係與開展協商策略。本研究訪談曾歷經開放式關係男同志四人，以解釋性互動論來分析他們的敘說經驗。研究發現，個體進入開放式關係的幾項因素：體驗多元情慾實踐、挪用論述創造自己與他人親密互動、自我認同為開放式關係實踐者、個體進入關係後才發現伴侶已存有其他關係。開放式關係走向失敗的特質有：雙方對關係規則想像不一致、個體難以掌握伴侶非語言的情感揭露意涵、關係開放後才發現自我難以達到性愛分離的境界。再者，雙方協商位置呈現流動的權力關係，會隨著個體不同的情慾需求、個體在不同關係階段的協商能力差異而改變，難以辨識何者具有絕對引導關係發展的能力。個體可能運用了主流互動腳本、轉化性階層單向對個人的作用，展現自我詮釋性愛慾意義的能動性。最後，實踐個體應認知到，協商成員在「做」關係的過程中，各自亦在發展自己的關係經營策略，應避免將與伴侶過去的互動關係，套用在當下的協商情境。

關鍵字

開放式關係；性階層；性腳本；主體能動性；解釋性互動論

並列摘要

The thesis conducts Pure Relationship, Sexual Hierarchy and Sexual Script theory to explore gay sexuality, love and erotic conflict. Besides, this study is also trying to explore how they comprehend the meanings of negotiation in an Open Relationship. How individual performs the emotional reveal will enlarge the meanings of Sexual Hierarchy and recreate an interactive script. The study are mainly discuss some issues as following: (1) The reasons of entering the Open Relationship (2) Conflict conditions, contents, and the results (3) How individual to comprehend the conflict, recreate new interaction , and also develop some strategies of negotiation. I interviewed four gays who ever had an open relationship in the past, and take the Interpretive Interactionism to analyze their narrative. There are four reasons found for entering Open Relationship in this study : (1) Having different sexual conduction (2) Taking the Open Relationship discourses to establish intimacy with others (3) Open Relationship is standing for one’s identity within an relationship (4) Partner in a relationship has already had other partners after the individual joining this relationship. However, an unsuccessful Open Relationship has three characteristics: (1) There is no consensus rules between both (2) The individual cannot catch the meanings of non-verbal emotional reveal (3) The individual cannot achieve the separation from sex and love after ' Opening '. In addition, the power relations in mutual negotiation cannot be accurately identified. It will change different needs with each in sexuality, love and eroticism. The individual may use the mainstream sexual or open relationship script based on personal explanation as foundation of negotiation, then it will change original active position and also passive. Finally, the individual should cognize that each is developing the strategies of relation management within a relationship as well. Therefore, each shall avoid embedding the interaction model to the present negotiation.