幫手!?綁手 !?已婚女性與母親、婆婆托育協助之代間矛盾

唐乃華

指導教授 ： 林如萍

國立臺灣師範大學/教育學院/人類發展與家庭學系/碩士(2009年)

摘要

「代間矛盾」是指因社會結構連結了地位和角色規範，加上個體主觀認知和情緒，帶來老年父母和成年子女之間關係的矛盾。過往研究大部分聚焦於老年父母的健康照顧、居住安排和心理福祉，主要是以老年世代的角度進行研究，而本研究由成年子女的角度出發，試圖了解已婚女性與婆婆、媽媽在托育協助互動中的代間矛盾。
本研究採取質性研究方法，深度訪談七位請婆婆或媽媽協助育兒的已婚女性，年齡介於29至37歲。研究發現如下：
一、已婚女性請婆婆、媽媽協助托育的考量為關係親疏和自身利益，而婆媳、母女間的托育協商模式，包括「婆婆主導型」、「家庭協商型」和「順水推舟型」三種。
二、已婚女性請婆婆、媽媽協助托育產生的代間矛盾有以下三種：已婚女性在婆家、娘家角色地位的矛盾，女性自我與母職角色的矛盾，以及世代對於教養認知和理想托育型式差異的矛盾。
三、已婚女性面對婆婆、媽媽協助托育引發之代間矛盾困境，採取的行動有三種，一是已婚女性對處境的解讀，包括同理處境和理性分析；二是主動改變；三是婚姻中的合作與支持。
最後依據研究結果，提出對於社會政策、家庭教育工作者和未來研究的建議。

關鍵字

代間矛盾 ； 母女關係 ； 婆媳關係 ； 托育

並列摘要

The concept of intergenerational ambivalence refers to conflicts in relationships between parents and adult offspring. This conflict is the product of individual cognition and emotion developed in a social context, with distinct assumptions of status, roles, and norms. Prior research on intergenerational ambivalence has focused on the interest of the elderly parent, examining their health care, living arrangement, and psychological well-being. This study instead privileged the adult offspring, with an aim to understand the intergenerational ambivalence experienced when married women negotiate childcare arrangements with their mothers and mothers-in-law.
In-depth interviews were conducted with seven married mothers whose mothers and mothers-in-law regularly participated in their childcare routines. The age of the participants ranged from 29 to 39. Analysis of the interviews found:
1. Married women would consider issues relationship intimacy and self-interest when incorporating their mothers and mothers-in-law into the childcare routine. Negotiation of the childcare between the mothers and the mothers-in-law may be dominated by the mother-in-law, coordinated by the entire family, or determined naturally.
2. Three kinds of intergenerational ambivalence are observed when married women negotiate childcare work with their mothers and mothers-in-law: the ambivalence in the status of married women with their families-of-origin and their parents-in-law, the ambivalence between self development and motherhood, and the ambivalence between cognitive knowledge and an ideal-type childcare routine.
3. Married women experiencing ambivalence in childcare negotiation with their mothers and mothers-in-law employ three coping strategies: framing their situation through sympathy and rationalization, making voluntary changes, and seeking marital cooperation and support.
Based on the findings of the results, recommendations are posited for social policy and family education workers. Future research directions are identified.

並列關鍵字

intergenerational ambivalence ； relations between mother and daughter ； relations between mothers-in-law and daughters-in law ； nurture

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