青少女愛情關係中之性別論述--以三位高職女生為例

The Gender Discussion in The Love Relationship of The Young Girls—Three Vocational School Girls as Examples

劉慧琪(LIU HUI CHI)

指導教授 ： 黃馨慧

國立臺灣師範大學/教育學院/家政教育學系/碩士(2000年)

摘要

論文摘要
受女性主義思想論述和婦女研究方法的啟發，在台灣兩性平等教育日漸受到重視，其相關的研究也正在蓬勃發展的今日， 有鑑於目前國內關於青少女愛情方面的研究缺乏，而兩性交往的議題又是校園內許多青少女的重要生活事件；且個人感知自己的性別角色，往往在與異性親密交往的過程中會被凸顯出來。為了累積與青少女生活更貼近的經驗研究，進而對青少女付出實際的關懷行動，本研究企圖探究屬於青少女主體經驗的另一種聲音，用青少女的觀點挖掘事件的意義，正視並肯定年輕女孩的切身生活經驗，理解屬於青少女自己的情感論述。
藉由質性研究對現象表層的探索力，透過三位青少女的敘說瞭解在其生活世界中，與異性愛情關係的實質內涵及其在愛情關係中的性別展現。以女性主義的性別觀點剖析在她們的愛情關係中性別角色的展現，期盼對父權性別價值觀的不當與影響性別差異的社會文化因素加以批判與反省，進而對青少女的愛情生活付出實際的關懷行動，以促進青少女與異性更和諧的相處。本研究的結論如下：
壹、青少女的愛情關係
研究者以Sternberg的愛情三要素：親密、熱情、承諾，來看這三位研究參與者的愛情面貌，可獲得以下三個結論：
一、在青少女的愛情關係中，尋求心靈親密的歸屬感。
二、在青少女的愛情關係中，呈現性愛合一的性行為。
三、在青少女的愛情關係中，表現經濟實惠的承諾觀。
貳、青少女愛情關係中的性別展現
一、在青少女的愛情關係中，已跳脫男主動/女被動的追求模式。
二、在青少女的愛情關係中，依然維持「一對一」的交往模式。
三、青少女在愛情關係中，扮演「好女孩的形象」以獲得男友及其周遭親朋好友的肯定。
四、在青少女的愛情關係中，因對情感依賴程度的差異，表現出依賴/自主兩種不同的愛情關係。
五、青少女在愛情關係中，具有知識/階級的優勢者，可以掌握較高的生活決定權，但仍難擁有情感的自主權。
六、青少女在愛情關係中，具有較高的性別意識者，可以掌握較高的生活決定權和情感自主權，較能擁有滿意的愛情關係。
七、在青少女的愛情關係中，對情慾表現出性行為自主、性觀念保守的矛盾情結。
基於研究結論，研究者分別針對青少女、青少女的家長及學校教育單位與未來相關研究，提出相關建議：
壹、對青少女本身的建議
一、擴大生活支持網絡。
二、破除愛情中的性別刻板化迷思。
三、學習瞭解自己的身體情慾。
貳、對青少女父母的建議
一、以開放接納的態度面對青少女的愛情關係。
二、避免將刻板化的兩性觀念加諸青少女的身上。
三、從小提供青少女明確健康的性教育。
參、對學校教育的建議
一、教師應平實看待青少女的愛情生活，與青少女形成善意的互動。
二、教師應主動積極創造機會，提供與青少女的實際生活相結合的教育課程。
三、提供具有兩性平權觀念的愛情教育和性教育相關課程。
肆、 對未來相關研究的建議
一、累積更多貼近青少年男女生活的愛情/性別經驗研究。
二、針對不同學校類別的青少女做相關的愛情/性別研究。
三、採用多元的研究方法增加研究資料的嚴謹性。

關鍵字

青少女 ； 愛情 ； 性別

並列摘要

The Gender Discussion in The Love Relationship of The Young Girls—Three Vocational School Girls as Examples
Abstract
Inspired by the thought statements of Feminism and the woman research approach, the education of the gender equality is attached more and more importance in Taiwan and the related researches develop vigorous in modern days. For the lack of the researches in the young girls’ love aspects, and the issue of relationship with the other genders an important life events in school, furthermore, I receive the raise of the gender role of myself in the process of interacting with the other gender closely. In order to accumulate the experience researches which press more close to the young girls’ life and then to give the concrete care, this research is attempted to make a thorough inquiry in the other aspects of the young girls subjective experience, to discover the meaning of the events in young girls’ perspective, to face and confirm the life experience of personal concern, and to realize the affection description of young girls themselves.
By the exploration of the phenomenon surface in quality research approach, through the descriptions of the three young girls, we can understand the essential cultivation in the love relationship with the opposite gender and the gender emergence in love relationship in their life world. Through the gender perspective of Feminism, we analyze the emergence of the gender role in their love relationship, hope to criticize and reflect not only the inappropriate gender values of Patriarchy but the influential gender differences of the society-culture factors, and then to give the concrete care to the young girls’ love life and to promote more harmonious relationship with the other gender for them. The conclusions of this research are as followings:
I. Love relationship of the young girls
The researcher applies the ‘triangular theory of love’—intimacy, passion, commitment—proposed by Sternberg, to analyze the love features of the research participants. Followings are three conclusions:
i. In the young girls’ love relationship, they try to find the belonging of the soul intimacy.
ii. In the young girls’ love relationship, they appear the sexual behavior as the combination of sex and love.
iii. In the young girls’ love relationship, they reveal economical views toward the promises.
II. The gender emergence in the young girls’ love relationship
i. In the young girls’ love relationship, they have broken away the male—active / female—passive courtship.
ii. In the young girls’ love relationship, they maintain ‘one-by-one’ relationship.
iii. In the young girls’ love relationship, they play the image of ‘good-girl’ to gain the affirmation from their boyfriends, friends and family members around them.
iv. In the young girls’ love relationship, based on the different degree of the emotion independence, they reveal two different types of love relationship— reliance/ autonomy.
v. In the young girls’ love relationship, the person, who possesses a higher knowledge/class, may have more power about the life decision but is hard to possess the autonomy of affection still.
vi. In the young girls’ love relationship, the person, who possesses higher gender consciousness, may have more power about the life decision and the autonomy of affection, and may have higher satisfactory to love relationship.
vii. In the young girls’ love relationship, they reveal a contradictive complex to the autonomy of the sexual behavior and the conservative of the sexual attitude in sexual passion.
Based on the conclusion of the research, the researcher propose several suggestions to the young girls, their parents, the school, and prospective related researches separately. The suggestions are as following:
I. Suggestions for the young girls
i. Expand the life-support network.
ii. Eliminate the myths of the gender stereotype in love.
iii. Learn how to understand the sexual passion of our own.
II. Suggestions for the young girls’ parents
i. Take an open, acceptable point of view for the young girls’ love relationship
ii. Avoid pass down the stereotype of the boy-girl relationship on the young girls.
iii. Provide clear and healthy sex education since the young girls were little.
III. Suggestions for the school education
i. The teachers should view the young girls’ love life ordinarily and form good-intention interaction with the young girls.
ii.The teachers should create opportunities actively to provide the educational courses related to the young girls’ real life.
iii. The teachers should provide some related courses, which cover the equality of two genders, both in love education and sex education.
IV. Suggestions for the prospective related researches
i. To accumulate more love/gender experience researches, which press close to the young boys and girls.
ii. To do the correlated love/gender researches in connection with young girls in different types of schools.
iii. To adopt multiple research approaches for increasing the validity of the research material.

並列關鍵字

young girls ； love ； gender

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