從同志伴侶關係經營的衝突處理談權力關係

本研究訪問8對男同志、12對女同志伴侶的衝突處理歷程，研究結果發現：在衝突議題（例如；吃醋、情感表達方式、金錢、與價值觀等）與衝突處理的方式（包括：要求－退縮、冷戰、理性溝通）上，同志伴侶與異陸戀夫妻無明顯的差異。對此，研究者嘗試從性別角色與文化規範進行檢視，進而延伸其伴侶關係經營的權力關係，探究其互動的微妙差異： 1.在衝突議題上：不同於異性戀夫妻，面臨夫家財產、從夫居、與子女等衝突議題，彰顯出同志伴侶衝突議題關注於兩人互動的純粹性。 2.在衝突處理方式及結果上：同志伴侶關係經營抽離了「生理性別」的差異，較異性戀者更容易產生高比例的可協調性，並且以「要在一起」爲前提，朝向兩人溝通爲目標，進行討論與協商，創造平等的伴倡關係型態。 3.性別角色與權力分配：相較異性戀者，同志伴侶雙方擁有相同的社會化經驗，在其關係經營的角色扮演與資源分配上，有助於彼此的相互瞭解，更能呈顯出更爲平等、多元、郁彈性的性別角色扮演，進而彰顯出同志伴侶權力分配的流動性。

關鍵字

同性戀；同志伴侶關係；伴侶關係經營；衝突處理；權力關係

並列摘要

This study used in-depth interviews to interview 8 gay couples and 12 lesbian couples about their process of conflict resolution. The results showed that the interplay between issues they fought about (e.g., jealously, emotion expression, money, values, etc.) and their conflict resolution styles (e.g., demanding-withdrawal, cold war, rational communication), same-sex couples seemed to be similar to that of heterosexual couples. The researcher tried to examine these couples' power structure from the perspectives of gender rote and cultural norms in order to see the differences between the two types of couples: 1. Issues of conflicts: unlike heterosexual couples, same-sex couples do not have to face issues like property, children, and so on. Instead, their conflicts are more related to couple interaction. 2. Conflict resolution styles: same-sex couples seemed to have more willingness to communicate with each other in order to stay together as a couple. They tended to have a more equalitarian relationship. 3. Gender role and power distribution: comparing to heterosexual couples, same-sex couples shared the similar socialization experiences and so they have better understanding between them. Thus, in gender role playing and resources distribution, they appeared to be more equal and flexible.